Ever noticed how often two people, in the same business, doing virtually the same tasks, appear to have vastly different results?
All else being equal, one soars while the other struggles. Why?
Well, here’s what I think, for what it’s worth.
The Difference is Confidence
It’s confidence. Those who have it, or at least are able to project that they do, tend to move faster, grow stronger and make more money.
Oh, and they seem full of energy and happiness.
Those who don’t, well, don’t.
So what what does this mean?
If you’re finding it hard to project confidence, whether because you’ve started something new or because you just seem to be riddled with self-doubt, are you doomed?
What I’ve noticed is that often the very things that are touted as being necessary for success — great website, high skill level, huge knowledge base, to name a few — pale next to confidence.
It is the magic sauce. The missing link. The elusive element.
You can have the best website money can buy, produce great content, know your product or service inside and out, but if you stumble around, feeling unsure of yourself, full of obvious self-doubt, it’s all for naught. It’s great window dressing, but no one stops to take a second look.
And the worst part is, those not as qualified or skilled, but who exude confidence, sweep past you.
Not sure why, but people just seem to know when your confidence is low. They smell it like a shark sniffs out blood in the water.
Once Again, I Know Personally Of What I Speak
I can speak with some level of knowledge here because I have struggled with this myself most of my life. I have always fought with the feeling that I am simply ordinary, in a world of extraordinary people.
It doesn’t matter whether it’s true or not. Just believing it makes it so.
So I constantly fight what I know isn’t true, reminding myself over and over again, that I am better than I allow myself to believe I am.
How Do You Project Confidence In Spite of Your Inner Turmoil?
So how do you project confidence so that you begin to genuinely believe, despite your inner turmoil?
Ah, that’s the rub. But it can be done.
Don’t Force Yourself Into a Bad Fit
First, don’t try and force yourself into a slot that’s a bad fit. If you’re a square peg trying to fit into a round hole, I’ve got news for you. You won’t make it. And if you do, the damage inflicted along the way will be great.
Not worth it.
Start with something you love to do. Forget where the crowd is headed. You don’t have to follow.. Don’t do what others expect of you or what you merely believe they expect.
What fits smoothly on one person may wear like a badly tailored suit on another. One person’s bliss may be another’s trap.
Find Your Personal Sweet Spot
Start by asking yourself what you love to do. If you’re working at a job you don’t love, find ways to build happiness, or at least contentment, into your day until you can make a switch.
If you’re starting a new business, make sure it’s one that you love. If you don’t, you’ll be unhappy. It’s hard to feel confident when you’re miserable.
So maybe you are in a business you love. Maybe you’re just getting started and you’re excited about the future, but also scared. How do you gain confidence?
Well, something that always helps me is to teaching what I know. Often, for me, the simple act of teaching allows me to see how much more I know than I thought. Even when I’m still learning myself. There’s always someone who is still behind you that you can help.
As you guide someone else, you speak with authority, your words come from a place of comfort. You know what you’re talking about. And it shows.
And it’s an awesome confidence booster.
You feel empowered. You feel knowledgeable. You realize you know what the heck you’re doing.
You feel confident.
It Takes Time To Develop Confidence
Confidence may seem like some elusive quality that you either have or you don’t. Really, it’s something you develop in yourself.
As you research, get training, follow those succeeding at your chosen field, you build a knowledge base that is stronger than you realize.
And when someone asks your advice, and you begin to give it, it dawns on you. I do know this stuff!
Your confidence is bolstered.
And that confidence draws people to you like the proverbial moth to a flame.
Start small. What is one thing you can teach someone else? Right now. Today.
Write a blog post. Mentor someone who’s just getting started.
Unearth your confidence.
And really, it’s been there all along.